I have been blogging for almost 3 years now, and one thing that I have noticed about the internet world is that so many women get off on tearing other women down online. Why? Nothing exhibits this more than Youtube and fashion blog commentary. Women are constantly berating other women. For instance, I sometimes look at the Fashion Bombshell of the Day posts on Fashion Bomb Daily, and the comments are always dripping with mean-spirited criticisms instead of constructive ones. A difference of opinion is perfectly normal and constructive criticism is often needed, but if your intentions are to get a laugh or to hurt someone’s feelings, I’m not down for that. And it happens all the time…
The internet seems to give people super powers. The things they wouldn’t dare say to someone’s face are so freely expressed online. It must be nice to be able to sit back and criticize the people who have the confidence to put it all out there for everyone to see. Many of these comments, of course, are submitted anonymously and are most likely from broads who are unhappy with themselves. Stop pointing out someone else’s insecurities in order to mask your own. Quite frankly, it’s desperate, unladylike and tacky.
But you’d rather be an internet gangsta, right? You are running around telling all the ‘fashionistas’ online exactly what is wrong with their looks, style, teeth, hair and priorities. You are “keeping it real.” But guess what ladies, if you do not like what you see you can easily close the window…Click the red X on your internet browser and rid yourself of all the unfashionable nonsense you despise. If someone’s style or content isn’t your cup of tea then unsubscribe. The great thing about the internet is that you do not have to engage in things that do not interest you.
Another assumption that is often made is that people do not have lives outside of their presence on the internet. I love to look good, but trust that my life isn’t all leopard and sequins. My blog, and any other social media I am on, is a very small part of my life and I think other bloggers would agree with that sentiment. While I love fashion, I am also a lover of art, education, books, family, friends and a host of other things.
Furthermore, while you are passing judgment on the things I (or others) are wearing or discussing online, where is your outfit? Where is your content? Where is your blog, novel, or any other contribution to this culture? Unfortunately, you have none…And you don’t have any because you are too preoccupied with worrying about what someone else is doing. Please realize that this is preventing you from contributing something meaningful. But I am not here to judge you either. If you choose not to do anything culturally or intellectually stimulating for the rest of your life, that is perfectly fine with me. However, learn to stay in your lane…Do not harass women who are comfortable in their skin and seek to share their style with the world. That does not make them superficial and it does not give you the right to brow beat them for every single thing that you do not like about their style.
So next time you decide to post a comment stating that someone’s shoes look cheap in their outfit of the day (OOTD) post or that they need to spend their money on their child instead of clothing and accessories, think of the saying that your mother should have taught you:
If you do not have anything nice to say then do not say anything at all. xx