I have been blogging for almost 3 years now, and one thing that I have noticed about the internet world is that so many women get off on tearing other women down online. Why? Nothing exhibits this more than Youtube and fashion blog commentary. Women are constantly berating other women. For instance, I sometimes look at the Fashion Bombshell of the Day posts on Fashion Bomb Daily, and the comments are always dripping with mean-spirited criticisms instead of constructive ones. A difference of opinion is perfectly normal and constructive criticism is often needed, but if your intentions are to get a laugh or to hurt someone’s feelings, I’m not down for that. And it happens all the time…
The internet seems to give people super powers. The things they wouldn’t dare say to someone’s face are so freely expressed online. It must be nice to be able to sit back and criticize the people who have the confidence to put it all out there for everyone to see. Many of these comments, of course, are submitted anonymously and are most likely from broads who are unhappy with themselves. Stop pointing out someone else’s insecurities in order to mask your own. Quite frankly, it’s desperate, unladylike and tacky.
But you’d rather be an internet gangsta, right? You are running around telling all the ‘fashionistas’ online exactly what is wrong with their looks, style, teeth, hair and priorities. You are “keeping it real.” But guess what ladies, if you do not like what you see you can easily close the window…Click the red X on your internet browser and rid yourself of all the unfashionable nonsense you despise. If someone’s style or content isn’t your cup of tea then unsubscribe. The great thing about the internet is that you do not have to engage in things that do not interest you.
Another assumption that is often made is that people do not have lives outside of their presence on the internet. I love to look good, but trust that my life isn’t all leopard and sequins. My blog, and any other social media I am on, is a very small part of my life and I think other bloggers would agree with that sentiment. While I love fashion, I am also a lover of art, education, books, family, friends and a host of other things.
Furthermore, while you are passing judgment on the things I (or others) are wearing or discussing online, where is your outfit? Where is your content? Where is your blog, novel, or any other contribution to this culture? Unfortunately, you have none…And you don’t have any because you are too preoccupied with worrying about what someone else is doing. Please realize that this is preventing you from contributing something meaningful. But I am not here to judge you either. If you choose not to do anything culturally or intellectually stimulating for the rest of your life, that is perfectly fine with me. However, learn to stay in your lane…Do not harass women who are comfortable in their skin and seek to share their style with the world. That does not make them superficial and it does not give you the right to brow beat them for every single thing that you do not like about their style.
So next time you decide to post a comment stating that someone’s shoes look cheap in their outfit of the day (OOTD) post or that they need to spend their money on their child instead of clothing and accessories, think of the saying that your mother should have taught you:
If you do not have anything nice to say then do not say anything at all. xx
I don’t know about you guys but I am so guilty of obsessing over what to wear. Honestly, it can get kind of ridiculous sometimes. On New Year’s Eve though, I thought I would keep it simple…Nothing special, no sequins, no tiny little dress, none of that. But a bit of leather never hurt anyone so I wore this:
I absolutely adore this leather top from Express, which has become one of my favorite stores. They always have some sort of promotion going on and I never pay full price for anything.
I received this top as a gift for my birthday a few months ago and finally had the opportunity to wear it. I would have loved to wear a gold chain with this top, but I haven’t found the right one just yet. The gold chain I do have is a bit too chunky for this look. So if you guys have any gold necklaces that you’d like to recommend, let me know…
What did you guys do to celebrate the New Year? And who else just throws black on when they don’t know what to wear? I know I’m not the only one…
I hope everyone’s New Year is off to a great start!! xx
I used to be to really into jewelry, but lately I have been rolling with just my Pandora bracelets and my Michael Kors watch. I rarely ever see jewelry that really excites me. A few weeks ago, however, I came across Vita Fede on Instagram (@vitafede). First, the founder/designer, Cynthia Sakai has the cutest style ever, and she stays rocking a fresh mani (you guys know I love that). Second, I absolutely love the jewelry…
Vita Fede is an LA based company that focuses on creating jewelry that is inspired by contemporary art and architecture. Each piece is handcrafted and made in Italy. The designs comes in sterling silver, 24k gold, and brass. Sakai also uses natural stones and Swarovski crystals in her designs as well:
Oh.Em.Geee. I love it all. Although these sorts of bracelets have been around for a while, I love the way she adds a very modern spin to these classic designs.
While I think the stacks are adorable, I would be satisfied with just one or two bracelets and a ring, which I’ll obviously be saving up for.
You can find out more about Vita Fede and their designs here. xx
Let me know what you all think about the looks I’ve come up with…Enjoy!:
And if you have an occasion coming up or just want some assistance with styling a look that you have in mind, just let me know in the comments. I hope you all are having a blessed weekend! xx
I took a trip to the Nordstrom in Annapolis, Maryland on Thursday evening with my Mom, and was not wowed by much of what I saw. She left out of the store with 4 items and I left out with none! Shocking, isn’t it?! Lol…There are a handful of things that I liked but wasn’t willing to buy. One item that I am still contemplating is a Marc by Marc Jacobs Wallet, which I’ve included below.
I was expecting to purchase a rose gold watch (the best looking one in the sale is listed below as well), but a lot of the sale options this year looked cheap. Not sure what that is about but whatevs…But as far as accessories go, here is a preview of some things I thought you all may like:
Remember the sale is open to the public as of July 19th. If you find some things you like, let me know! Talk to you all soon! xx